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was speaking to lala just the other day... about relationships and everything... just thought that some of these are rather thought-worthy... how some people can go in and out of a relationship so callously with countless individuals... in my 19 or so years so far... i've only had 2 boyfriends... you know... the kind where you actually use the term as such... and i've heard of loads who've had 10, 20... i wonder how... and why... the whole idea of being able to share a special part of one's life suddenly becomes so cheap... like two a dozen... and everybody can have a try... i'm not against dating... it's a necessary prelude to getting together seriously rite? sounding out the other person... to see if he/she were suitable for a lifelong commitment... but 10, 20 boyfriends? something i dont really get... how others take it so lightly by breaking up and patching up repeatedly... i dont deny being guilty of this... like when i was 14 years old la... but twenty year olds... breaking up and patching up... won't it like weaken the entire thing? i used to remotely think that it might help to strengthen the relationship sometimes... (thats not the reason why i did it...) by making the two individuals value the relationship more... and treating one another better... on hindsight... it seems nothing more than a childish act... a desperate cry for attention... dont let the person go if you still think he's the one... if you end up badmouthing him/her... maybe the two of you werent meant to be... (he said "yes, you do." when i said that i suck...-_-) how guys and girls view the idea of dating differently... most guys are alright with going out to find out if she's the one... most girls make sure that he's the one before going out... but it's really hard to say... maybe after 101 dates... one finds out that "he/she wasnt that into me"... i think going out for movies/dinner/windsurfing is normal... i do that with my buddies all the time... guys and girls alike... but if there was a hint of mutual liking... and they start going out with hands linked... i thats like dating with a capital D... oh well... i dont think i defined it well too... it's very obscure... figure it out urself.. then tell me... ----Stef stopped rambling at 21:22 --Link to Post |
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