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after the sudden influx of catching up sessions... and precious girl time... the timely article from TNP about male and female undergrads is really helpful... both as friendly girl gossip... and conversation space-fillers... yes... i'm NOT a conversationalist... thing is... while we, as girls, want to readily slam the guys and pronounce them guilty as charged... accused of being whiney and dependent... shallow and superficial... and the list goes on... but the fact remains... it is not fair to put all the eggs in one basket... and label the entire thing QC FAIL... i used to think we can... until i met him... and decided that he defied all laws of classification... mushities aside... it is not possible to say that all male undergrads are necessarily shallow/whiney/superficial... coz of the simple fact that not ALL of them are... but the shocking truth remains... a lot of them are... (i'm not gonna get hatemail over this la... i'm not star-blogger...) let's analyse the guys first... going trait by trait... if da xiao jie here decide that she has too much time sitting on her butt... she shall move on and write about the little princesses accusation as well... those ignorant fools! but i wont plead innocent... coz it's pretty true... SUPERFICIAL only going for the goodlookers... leaving the ugly ducklings like myself sad on the shelf and all... told you HE is an exception to all laws of classification... thing is... it is something that they are aware of... and readily admit... without any hint of sheepish-ness... if such a word exists... was giving kelvin suggestions of topics to blog about just now... and i told him, "why guys only go for goodlookers?" he said it cant be explained... and that i should ask God... i think this ties in with the part about being SHALLOW... while i wont slam guys abt being SUPERFICIAL/SHALLOW... because it's like a natural defect... they didnt have a choice... born like that one... i seriously think that effort should be made on their part to minimise this defect... maybe it's the air in Mars... men are from there, you see... okok. not funny... thing is... in my personal opinion... no one should be victimised for something he/she cannot do anything about... that is to say... if a person is not born visually appealing... in comparision to the vast majority... it is not his/her fault... and therefore, he/she should not be punished for it... he knows better than to ask me if a person is pretty/handsome... my answer would be, "yes, but by my standards, dont know about yours..." so if you spot me gushing about cute-looking doctors and surfers... you know not to stalk out the hospital or beach... the point of my long and unruly paragraph here is that... too many guys passed on great girls just becoz they didnt look as great as they want them to be.. looks are transient... and isnt something that you can take with you throughout the years... go for someone you can relate to... someone you feel comfortable with... someone who, when you close your eyes (literally and figuratively), gives u a fuzzy warmth... oh ya... i ought to tie it in with the undergrads part... it's obvious la... the link... trust me... i in engin, i know... guys treat me like guy, so i know... i hear stuff in lecture theatres... in canteens... about which girl chio-er than which girl... which guy woo-ing that chio bu... exchanging girls' photos on MSN asking for one another's opinions... club pick-ups which is definitely based on visual appeal... i'm not surprised that girls becomes obsessed with their exterior... with eating disorders... slimming centres/pills/programs... dress like a millionaire, eat like a pauper... how how how? i guess it's a vicious cycle... guys like pretty girls -> girls wanna become pretty -> some girls become prettier than others -> guys want the prettier girls -> girls go get pretty and back to square 1... lost? i think i lost myself too... think the topic hit too close to home... ouch... kk... the moral of the story is just that... "Guys... Stop complaining you are still single... All you need to do is to tweak your expectations... Look beyond the exterior... Character and personality are 10 times more important..." girls are guilty too... though i think not as much... the other traits some other time la... sleep time... dun wanna wake at 12 noon anymore... wanna get off my butt and start exercising... keep fit! who wants a FAT instructor? ----Stef stopped rambling at 02:04 --Link to Post |
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